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With love and gratitude,
Kris King

Circles of Life

Wednesday, November 19th, 2014

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Circles of Life

What lies before us
and what lies behind us
are small matters
compared to what lies within us.
And when we bring what is within
out into the world,
miracles happen.
-Henry David Thoreau

In the book Black Elk Speaks, Black Elk, a Wichasha Wakan (medicine man or holy man) of the Oglala Lakota (Sioux) said, “The power of the world always works in circles, and everything tries to be round. The sky is round, and I have heard that the earth is like a ball, and so are all the stars. The wind, in its greatest power, whirls; birds make their nests in circles, for theirs is the same religion as ours. The sun and moon, both round, come forth and go down again in a circle. Even the seasons form a great circle in their changing, and always come back again to where they were. The life of a person is a circle from childhood to childhood, and so it is in everything where power moves.”

“The life of a person is a circle,” a precious circle of vibrant life energy filled with contrast and paradoxes—seeking and finding, winning and losing, heart-throbbing and heartbreaking, inspired and depressing, sensuous and spartan, clear and confusing—forming relationships that run the gamut from politically correct to deeply authentic and using our creative energy in ways that can deplete us or raise us to the stars. All of this and more is part of the journey we travel when we enter the circle of life.

To fulfill our own unique cycle, we face all the possibilities in the circle. How we face them determines what we learn, how our character develops, and how our wisdom unfolds. How we face them also determines how much time we spend in joy and sadness.

Have you ever seen those play areas at pizza places that are filled with balls? Kids jump, stomp, slide, roll, laugh, and basically have a good time in them. Most often when they bump into each other, they just laugh…and sometimes they cry. When I see my life as a circle, that’s what I see: vibrantly colored resilient balls (people) bouncing around in a vast container, the possible combinations and interactions between balls infinite. And yet there are certain people we interact with more often and eagerly because we are attracted to them.

One such life that has been and is so meaningful to me is my dear friend and playmate, Mark McInteer. Instant comfort and ease, shared visions and commitments, mutual admiration and respect, belly laughs and tenderness have been hallmarks of our friendship. Basically, I’ve said to myself a thousand times with joy and gratitude, “What a guy!” We’ve bounced around the seminar room together and traipsed around the Northwest assisting people to open their hearts and minds to their own possibilities and life’s magic.

Mark is a giver, known and respected by his community for his unwavering commitment to people learning what serves them best to lead healthy, meaningful lives. Tireless, passionate, courageous, and real.

And now my dear friend is living with terminal cancer, living each moment with honor, grit, love, and authenticity. Mark, your life has touched mine so deeply, and I am just one among many for whom this is true. When I visited you the other day and saw you in a wheelchair, my heart broke. However, you were so excited about your trip to Disney Land with your beautiful two-year-old daughter, Abigail, that I let go of my sadness and joined you in your happiness to give her such a wonderful gift and memory of her remarkable dad.

This one instance poignantly revealed to me again your true and indomitable character, wanting to give as much as you can give until the very last moment.

Your family, friends, and community hold you now in the circle of their arms and hearts tenderly, thankful that the circles of our lives have been blessed by your life, that your life has come full circle.
Thank you, dear friend, for sharing the miracle of life with me.


(Mark died shortly after this appeared in our newsletter and after returning from his trip to Disney Land with his family.)

Reflections:

1. Bring to mind someone you were naturally attracted to because of their true nature, and who touched your life in a positive way. Describe them and what you were attracted to.

2. What did you learn about yourself from this person?

3. Have you let this person know how important they are to you? If no, is now the time to acknowledge their contribution to your life?

With love and gratitude,
Kris King

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Pay It Forward

Sunday, November 2nd, 2014

This article appeared in the Source Newsletter for November 2014

ux964-4b5cdd83-cdf8-49dc-8a01-1ff082713f87-v2I feel so blessed to be surrounded by remarkable people every day in every way. I love being a part of magical transformations in people’s lives. The smiles I see on Sunday of the PES fill my heart with gratitude and hope. I saw 55 of those smiles November the 9th…yahoo.

Thank all of you for advocating and making those smiles and life-long transformations possible.

One of the remarkable people in my life is Jill Rowe, a life-long learner and friend. Rather than me talking about her, I am going to have her speak directly with you. She has a great idea about how to support more magical transformations and keep the momentum going at Wings…

A note from Wing’s grad Jill Rowe about the Pay it Forward campaign…

“A couple of months ago I had a realization of just how big my process has been through WINGS. I was sitting in the sun and reflecting on how Jillgrateful I am to the people who supported me. My sister who left me cards with surprise lunch money, my husband who supplemented my gas for the many trips I took, and words of encouragement from my co-workers.

ux964-2f9bc2bf-74bd-4f34-b582-9f512a2b3969-v2In this moment of gratitude I realized that I wanted to give back. I thought, “What if each WINGS graduate donated one dollar?” I have been in many seminars where people have worked so hard to be there only to worry about the little things like food, snacks, or gas money to get home. I know of at least one participant who slept in their vehicle during seminar. Then I thought, “What would be the impact on their process if they did not have those worries?”

So, let’s find out! My vision is to create a Pay It Forward fund where the monies raised will go into the scholarship fund. My vision is to have each Wings graduate donate one dollar or more and to do it within 30 days.

Please join me in being a catalyst of love and empowerment. Use the button below to “pay it forward!”

Say YES!”

Jill Rowe

Pay it Forward

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Isn’t a great idea??? Gandhi said, “I must be the change I wish to see in the world.” Let’s be that change together.

With love and gratitude,
Kris King

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Leading the Best Way We Know

Friday, September 12th, 2014

This article appeared in the Source Newsletter for September 2014

“Leadership is about both caring and being involved the best way we know.”

ux964-74dc4717-3ef9-46b7-a53d-132898097118-v2I don’t know about you but I am a person who stays current with what’s happening in the world everyday. I have 5-6 news sources I check each morning and evening from the BBC to the LA Times, Huffington Post to the Daily Beast. We live in such a wide and varied world and I am curious about what’s going on.

The news lately has been more than grim and disheartening in many parts of our country and the world. That’s the reason many people don’t pay attention. ..perhaps thinking it’s too much to handle. However, I think that when we disassociate from a difficult reality and stay in our safe bubble, we disconnect from our compassion and we keep doing what we’ve always done. And the grim reality continues.

Leadership is about both caring and being involved the best way we know. There are notable ways to do that, running for office, leading a corporation or non-profit, uniting with others to stand up to whatever the challenges are to name a few. And then there are the everyday ways to lead…being a loving and nurturing parent, a soccer coach, a teacher that inspires excellence in their students, or being an author of books that open our minds to the possibilities. The list goes on and on.

Wings’ Mission is to “inspire and support positive change, creating an abundant, loving and respectful world community.” We have been doing this work for 30 years and I think the need for this work is more important now than it has ever been. I hope you will agree. What if everyone was accountable, communicated effectively, knew their values, and chose to collaborate with others to create the world we all want to live in? I remember teaching in Hong Kong with 42 participants, 27 different languages (English was a second language for many)…the huge learning for me was that everyone of the 42 wanted what you and I want…a world of love, respect, safety, great education, collaboration and abundance.

We are taking a stand for the world you and I want to live in. Starting in October we are offering the Personal Effectiveness Seminar at half tuition. I want to remove any barriers people have had to coming. I want to pack the room and build the number of people who will step into their lives with renewed passion, clarity and commitment.

I ask for your help. Spread the word and help others to spread their Wings!

With love and gratitude,
Kris King

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Resurgence

Tuesday, July 15th, 2014

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Resurgence

Last night, as I was sleeping,
I dreamt — marvelous error!
that there was a fiery sun
here in my heart…
It was fiery because it gave warmth
as if from a hearth
and it was sun
because it gave light
and brought tears to my eyes.
-Antonio Machado

The definition of resurgence is to rise again, a lifting up, a coming back to life.

As I look out my window, I not only see, I also hear and feel the subtle resurgence of the life cycle beginning again. Spring, slow as rising sap, is making its graceful way through all living things, buds taking form, grass brightening, the mating dance of birds and frogs croaking in our pond.

There have been times in my life when I thought that spring, a natural resurgence, was happening in every living thing except me, that in some way I was outside the normal cycle of life, dormant, cold, and lifeless. Those times were the most painful I have ever known: the last months of my che- motherapy when I realized that soon I would be on my own without drugs to fight my cancer, my longevity in question; the darkest and most disconnected years with my husband, Kyle; and the first few years of agonized grieving after my son Matthew’s death. A part of me refused to be touched by the grace of new life and the renewal of spirit, and in my refusal I felt anguish, isolation, and anger.

Have you ever known such a time? Angry that others are flourishing while you languish, resentful that others can laugh when you feel such pain, envious of how easy it seems for others to get on with life, bitter that others have what you want and you don’t know how to create it, and certain that you will always feel this way? Often these are the times that we don’t want to recall, because the pain and suffering are so extreme.

As I refused to be nurtured by the natural cycles of healing and rebirth, holding on to my pain, I became organically aware of the deepest pain of all: denial of life and spirit, walking death. Here I was alive, but not living. How very egotistical of me to think I could control the very cycle of regeneration!

In its own time, gently, naturally, without fanfare or force, life seeped back again within me at a depth and breadth I had never known. It was as if a huge boulder had been lifted from my heart, mind, and spirit; colors were vibrant, music touched my soul, food tasted rich and luscious, and I heard the sound of my own laughter. How could such anguish lead to such joy and gratitude, such connection to life? I asked myself, “How I did I make the shift from suffering to peace?”

Instantly my answer filled me: surrender, yield, let go. In every instance of great suffering, the moment I let go of my expectations and “supposed to be’s,” my resurgence into life began. The moment I trust life, myself, and divine spirit enough to relinquish control over outside circumstances, I am free to discover my true nature. I am free to learn from events instead of fight, and I am free to experience life “now.”

As I look back, I realize now that each of these times has been the seed bed of a dynamic resurgence in my life, my life enriched, transformed by what I learned from going with the cycle of life, not fighting it.

Through my breast cancer, I realized how grateful I am for my resilience, how committed I am to live and be healthy and strong in my mind, body, and spirit.

Reconstructing my relationship with my husband, Kyle, taught me the power of unconditional love, starting with myself, and that being passionately alive is inspiring. I also learned the power of accountably and respectfully telling the whole truth, all the time.

The death of my son Matt taught me to surrender, to let go of attachments to life being a certain
way, and that thinking I can control events is a dangerous illusion. His death also taught me that there are no guarantees that I will be here for a long time, so to stop acting as if I had all the time in the world. Matt’s death taught me to be fully alive now no matter what the circumstances!

Reflections:

1. What are the times in your life when you have felt distanced from life because of difficult events or experiences?

2. How did you take care of yourself through these times?

3. What did you learn from each event?

4. How are you using that learning to live fully right now?

With love and gratitude,
Kris King

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The Pause That Refreshes…Beauty

Monday, July 7th, 2014

This article appeared in the Source Newsletter for July 2014

I love invitations…invitations to picnics, parties, a long hike, family reunions, travel to a foreign country. What are your favorites? One of the reasons I love invitations is when I accept, I open to a whole new realm of experiences…moments to savor, broadening my awareness of life, and connecting deeply.

Here is a special invitation for you…let’s explore the impact beauty has in our lives together.

I think of beauty as “the pause that refreshes” my life…one moment fully experiencing beauty not only marks off that moment as precious, it also can last a life time.

For a moment look back in time to a clear memory of experiencing beauty…I hope you have many…and just “be” with it. As you visualize this moment, notice all the things that happen in your body, your emotions and your thoughts. Perhaps a sense of relaxation, pleasure, a smile forming, what is happening for you?


 

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One of the places I experience beauty the most is watching the evolution of my perennial garden. Right now the Calla lillies are in bloom again. Every morning I go out and breathe in their beauty, the changes they’ve made from tightly curled to fully open…simply designed and so elegant. As I am present with their beauty, my heart is full and calm. As I am present with their beauty, I am reminded of other moments of experiencing beauty and my spirit is, once again, refreshed and inspired.

Where in your life do you most experience life’s abundant beauty? What impact does appreciating beauty have on you? When you explore beauty, you may be surprised at what you find. Noticing a tear slip down a loved one’s cheek is one of the most beautiful things I have ever experienced.

With love and gratitude,
Kris King

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