courage: mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty
authentic: true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character, genuine
alive: having life, marked by much life, animation or activity
One of my favorite quotes by David T. Kyle is “External difficulties and challenges mirror the place of growth and development within a person.” It shines the spotlight directly on accountability and life being our greatest teacher, offering up lessons each moment to see if we are paying attention or not, if we are open to learning or not, and if we have the courage to do something different in order to create a new and hopefully better outcomes…or not.
I think it takes great courage to be fully authentic and alive. To stand in the face of the unknown, being fully present, resourceful and proactive, is to stand in our authentic power. Have you ever worried about what others were thinking about you and stayed quiet? or said what you thought you should say instead of what you were really thinking? or agreed with something you didn’t agree with…to be approved of or to belong? How do you feel when you hold yourself captive to your fears? I used to be so afraid of rejection and isolation. Every time I succumbed to those fears I felt so much self-judgment.
Do you long to know yourself fully and to be vibrantly alive?
There are two keys to being courageous, fully authentic and alive. The first key is accountability…to step into number one position in our lives, realizing that we are the sole or primary factor, to accept responsibility for our thoughts, words, actions and behaviors, realizing that our choices are our own and they chart the course of our lives. There is no one to blame. The ball is in our court.
The second key is differentiation. When we differentiate, we focus on self-knowledge and self-control, developing our own values, ideals, and beliefs rather than automatically accepting the beliefs that we grew up with or those of our culture. We strive to lead a life of integrity, according to our own ideals and despite pressures to conform to the standards of others…be like everybody else. To the extent that we develop and sustain our unique identity, we are truly alive.
Self-awareness is not for the weak of heart…or for wimps…it takes courage, self-discipline and desire.
Are you ready to be courageously and fully authentic and alive? I AM.
With love and gratitude,
PS My husband Kyle and I are deeply grateful for all the loving cards, letters and donations to the Kyle King True Colors Scholarship Fund. The loss of Kyle has stretched every fiber of my being and your loving kindness helps ease the pain. Thank you for embracing us. We are blessed being cared for by each of