Hi! I am Kris King and I’d like to welcome you to my blog. Last evening here at WINGS we did a Special Evening, and the title of it was “The Incredible Lightness of Being.” We had such a good time, that I really wanted to share with you the things that we did last night.
One of the ways I’d like you to start is to check in and find out what’s true for you right now. If you feel comfortable, I encourage you to close your eyes for a moment. When I ask you questions, just listen to what happens inside of you, especially your first answer, to see if it’s true for you. If you don’t feel comfortable with that, that’s alright. But it’s better with your eyes closed.
So close your eyes, take a nice deep breath. Remember to listen to your first answer.
Are you having as much fun as you want?
Are you easy to laughter and light-heartedness?
Do you laugh at your own mistakes and really mean it?
Are those lines subtly forming on your face from smiling and laughing out loud?
Do you wake up eager to begin your day… anticipating what is awaiting you in that day?
Do you enjoy the simple things in life… every day?
Do you feel happy seeing others smile, enjoying themselves?
Do you talk with others about how happy you are?
Are you feeling the incredible lightness of being right now?
So, just noticing your answers, and taking a nice deep breath.
If you had more no’s than yes’s… you are in the right place, because we’re going to explore how to get more yes’s in your life.
If you had more yes’s than no’s, I want you to write to me and tell me how you do it.
One of my favorite quotes that helps me remember “What is this incredible lightness of being?” is by Oscar Wilde, and it goes
“Life is too important to be taken seriously.”
Now, does that kind of give you pause? The first time I read it and went “What is he talking about?”
And then I got it.
If you look at the word “serious” in Miriam Webster’s Dictionary, it’s synonyms are things like: grave, solemn, sedate, staid, sober, earnest, not light, utterly free of levity, prim self-restraint, and concerned.
Now, when you hear that sequence of words, do you feel a great lightness of being, ready to go out and set the world on fire? I don’t think so. When I hear those words, I have a sense of tightness, of not much breath, of being really fearful about what’s going on in my world. Life is too important to be taken seriously from a tight, restrained, contained state of being.
What I think Oscar Wilde did not mean:
It’s time to be an air head, without goals, vision or purpose.
It’s time to be uncaring or selfish.
It’s time to disengage from your responsibilities.
It’s time to just do what you want, not paying attention to the impact you have on others or our world.
It’s time to pretend everything is wonderful when it is not.
What I think he did mean:
That life is so precious that we live it fully and passionately.
That it is time to be heart centered.
That it is time to be relaxed, resourceful, and present.
That it is time to be creative and open to the mystery of life.
That it is time to be self-aware, accountable for ourselves, open to feedback.
That it is time to focus on what is instead of what isn’t.
That is is time be thankful, to share your gifts with others, being in service.
I want to share with you a recent event in my life that was pretty shocking. And yet, by using these seven principles, it turned into delight. I journey to Bhutan. I’ve been there seven times. It’s one of my favorite countries in the world – imagine having a theme of the country be Gross National Happiness instead of Gross National Product!
Ten days before the trip I get a phone call from my travel agent, Doug, and he said “I have some bad news.” He paused, and my heart started beating, and then he said “I have some really bad news.” My heart rate went up even more.
I took a nice deep breath, and I said “Okay. Tell me.”
He said “You have no tickets from Bangkok into Paro, Bhutan, or from Paro back out to Bangkok on Drukair.
Drukair is the national airline, it’s the only planes that go in and out of the country. It’s high season, it’s festival week, and I think “Hmm…. I’m going on this trip.” I said to Doug “We can handle this,” and he thanked me for my trust.
It took five days of back and forth between Bangkok and Eugene, Oregon to get our planes in. We’d get there a day later, we’d leave two days early. We lost three days in Bhutan.
The whole time I was interacting with Doug, we were doing this: we were being open, we were being curious, we were being resourceful and totally accountable. At the five day mark, I talked to my guides in Bhutan. I told them what had happened: we were going to lose three days in Bhutan. A five day trek, where he had hired guides and cooks and animals. I felt really, really scared to tell him that, that there was no way that it could work. When I told him what had happened, he just stopped and breathed. He said “We can handle that.” And we did.
When I got off the plane in Paro, we were late. However, we both started laughing with each other, and made a commitment: We are going to make this the best trip we have ever taken. And it was.
Life is too important to be taken seriously is a theme in my life. When I contract and get fearful, I don’t think clearly. When I am relaxed and get curious, the world opens… opens wide and bright… and beautiful.
So, the incredible lightness of being is the result of taking life with joy, curiosity and love.
With love and gratitude,