Dive In and Take Flight

Download audio file

Subscribe to the audio podcast

Audio clip: Adobe Flash Player (version 9 or above) is required to play this audio clip. Download the latest version here. You also need to have JavaScript enabled in your browser.

When in doubt, make a fool of yourself.
There is a microscopically thin line
between being brilliantly creative
and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth. So what the hell, leap.
-Cynthia Heimel

Do you ever feel as if you were watching your own life go by? That your life isn’t really about you, it’s going on without you? You can see it happening “out there,” and yet you aren’t there? You do not feel emotionally engaged or really present in your relationships, your work, maybe even in your play time.

Many people reveal in the Personal Effectiveness Seminar that this feeling of disassociation is predominant in their lives. In this disassociated state, the major feeling is fear, which we don’t like to experience. It’s uncomfortable! So we shift it a bit and turn our fear into feelings of isolation, loneliness, lifelessness, unworthiness, despair, apathy, powerlessness, resentment, blame, depression (the national pastime), all our favorites. I don’t think so!

Why do we watch, stand back from our own lives? Why do we settle for so much less than we really want? Again, all the old favorites based in fear: fear of rejection, fear of loss, fear of being laughed at, humiliated, shamed, fear that what we do won’t be “right” or good enough, fear of being found out. If you look deeply at all these fears, you will notice they roll into one. If we get involved, in some way we will lose—fear of loss. And so we stand back, not speaking our whole truth of what we are feeling, thinking, and wanting, not risking by letting those around us know how much we care or how much we have to offer.

At what cost? A cost so extreme, so painful, a cost none of us can afford to pay. We lose ourselves. The very protection we created to keep us from the pain of loss creates the biggest loss of all.

Imagine for a moment that a large, deep, pristine pool of water has been part of your life since childhood. You’ve walked by it each day, sometimes quickly, sometimes lingering. You’ve observed it during all the seasons. You’ve sat beside it dreaming and wondering. You’ve seen the water clear blue, languid, shimmering, and inviting. You’ve seen it whipped by the wind, choppy and almost black, mysterious and threatening. You’ve splashed the refreshing water on your face and let your feet be cooled by the shallows, and yet you’ve never been in the pool. Do you know it? Have you accepted all that it has to offer you?

The difference between watching life go by and living it is diving in, getting all wet. Not just a toe or a finger, all of you.

The moment you dive in, there is nothing else to experience, just that moment and the moment to follow. In order to live, you must interact with the water, explore its depths, or float on the surface looking at the clouds go by. The more you involve yourself and play in the water, the more skilled you become and the stronger you feel.

You and the pool are one. The pool is the essence of you and the content of your life. So many of us say we want something different than what we have, and yet we don’t know what we do have. By being fully engaged with your current reality, exploring your beliefs, behaviors, values, results, and accepting your ownership in creating it all, you have a powerful starting point to float on your back and watch the clouds go by as you envision what you want to create in your life and what you want to stand for.

The first step in taking flight, soaring free, and creating what you want most is to dive in and claim what is all yours right now. The exploration is the most important and rewarding one you will ever embark upon.

At Wings, we have excellent dive, swim, and flight instructors. Come on in, the water’s fine!

Reflections:

1. Do you ever feel that you are watching your own life go by, watching others get what they want? If yes, what are you settling for?

2. What are your biggest fears?

3. Instead of facing your fears, what do you do?

4. If you had no fears and were guaranteed success, what would you do?

With love and gratitude,
Kris King

| More

One Response to “Dive In and Take Flight”

  1. Rupali says:

    Our Life is not always the same. It brings happiness as well as sadness. Sometimes life is very simple and at other times it’s very complicated. I think we should live our lives like kings and queens; then each day of our life will become extremely beautiful. Read more & share your thoughts on http://nectarofhappiness.com