Doing the Right Thing: Miracles

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Tashi delek: good luck greeting from Bhutanese man

Let yourself
be silently drawn
by the stronger pull
of what you really love.
-Rumi


One of the most valuable outcomes of conscious awareness, I believe, is the skill of healthy self-evaluation—knowing how to stand above the details and events of our lives and look down with curiosity, accountability, and objectivity to see what’s working and what we want to do differently.

Some people think that self-evaluation is what goes on in their heads all the time, which for the most part is judgmental of self and others. This stream of criticism, when run to the extreme, is destructive and actually stops us from taking effective action. That is not self evaluation; it’s “mind chatter”!

Gandhi said:

It’s the action,
not the fruit of the action, that’s important.
You have to do the right thing.
It may not be in your power,
may not be in your time,
that there will be any fruit.
But that doesn’t mean you stop doing the right thing. You may never know what results
come from your action.
But if you do nothing, there will be no result.

Have you ever wondered what the “right thing” is? I’ve seen people freeze at the idea, stop dead
in their tracks, fearing they could make a mistake, as if there is only one right thing to do! Knowing what the right thing is becomes apparent when we know our deepest values, our vision for our lives, practice healthy self-evaluation, and then take action. Action leads to learning, which helps us decide what the next right thing to do is.

When I participated in the Personal Effectiveness Seminar in 1982 at thirty-nine, I realized that most of my thoughts were based in faultfinding, and I was constantly comparing myself to others, sometimes one up, but mostly one down. No wonder I didn’t know what I wanted in my life. I wasn’t really focused on what I wanted; I was focused on getting away from what I didn’t want! With the help of the teachings at Wings, I began the lifelong process of knowing what is the right thing for me to be, to do, and to have.

May 9, 2003, I turned sixty, and I am so delighted to be sixty! Since I had breast cancer at thirty-six, every year is a gift and a bonus. What a perfect time to self-evaluate.

Standing up above my life and looking down, I see what in 1982 I would have considered miracles because I thought my life was over.

I see and acknowledge

  • my healthy and resilient body;
  • my healthy and loving relationship with my husband, Kyle;
  • my rich and delightful relationships with my sons, Mark and Kyle;
  • running a business I love with people I respect and cherish;
  • renovating a building so Wings has a beautiful home;
  • supporting my mom and dad through his dementia and death;
  • my vast friendships, teaching, and interacting with so many great people;
  • my travels around the United States, to Tokyo, Nepal, Sweden and Bhutan;
  • my ability to communicate my truth clearly with love and respect;
  • all the beauty that surrounds me;
  • the positive impact Wings has had on thousands of people’s lives;
  • all the fun I have had doing it all;
  • and there’s so much more!

I didn’t know any of the above would work out. I just knew they were things that I wanted and were “the right things” for me to do. What do you want to look down and see when you look at your life?

It’s always time to do the right thing. Ready for some miracles?

Reflections:

1. Imagine standing up above your life and looking down at it. What do you want to see?

2. Why are these things important to you?

3. What are you doing right now to bring these things into reality?

4. How will you feel when what you want to see is your reality?

With love and gratitude,
Kris King

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